Heal Your Past (3)

“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.”

— Robert Gary Lee

Reading time: 20-25 mins

Before any kind of deeper transformation can take place we have to address the past and any “blockages” to growth which may be holding us back. Those of us who have trauma or childhood adversity does not mean we haven’t been successful in life or made our mark in the world. We all cope in a multitude of different ways. But our personal lives are often entirely separate to our business interests. We might be a corporate leviathan, where success hides our shadow selves and the hidden trauma that rises to the surface in relationships and family life. Or conversely, family and relationships take precedent and fulfilment in our careers eludes us.

Whatever the variables, the only measure of value derives from how well we have been able to transmute our hidden shadows; that which has been adapted to the demands of daily life and often purposely buried or “forgotten.” Anyone who sincerely wishes to grow their conscience cannot leave the past unknown. It has a direct relationship to how well we cope with the uncertainty and unpredictability that hails from the future. By releasing our past demons we are slowly able to fully inhabit the present. This eventually allows us to face the future which unfolds from that new presence.

Healing means the incremental release of new energy that was previously used to service a false self. Such a persona exists through a normalised habit of shoring up the perceived breaches in our many defence mechanisms. That’s the nature of a self built from survival. It’s not the real self thus has no authentic foundations. And as anyone who has done any refurbishment on a house without having the right knowledge, you can go through money like water down a drain, until you are forced to take out a huge loan from people and situations who have that requisite money (energy). It’s much like being held hostage by a debt we could never repay without conscious attention to the roots of that pain. As each year goes by the interest on that debt increases until we will be forced to address it anyway. You become bankrupt and homeless.

Healing Developmental Trauma

One of the most effective methods of restoring a healthy mind-body connection away from trauma and childhood adversity is the NeuroAffective Relational Model ™ (NARM) a new form of somatically-sourced, multidisciplinary psychotherapy that synthesizes the latest peer-reviewed research and practice in the fields of mind and body healing.  While placing importance on the clear understanding of past events it’s focus is on how best we can attune to the present moment and facilitate our capacity to connect to that which naturally heals. This brings us back from feedback loop of disregulation to a process of conscious self-regulation. The latter means listening to our mind and body so that we can have healthy stress instead of stress that harms us. (Again, healthy stress isn’t the issue, it’s our reaction to it. And when we are overloaded with stress that crystallizes into trauma revisited over years, then this is obviously something far different. Habitual reaction to pain can completely deform the mind/body connection leading to chronic disregulation.

Affect regulation involves how we manage our emotions so that they serve us and not overwhelm us. When we are in a state of disregulation we are unable to manage thoughts, emotions and instincts which have become too powerful leading to all kinds of symptoms such as anxiety, passive aggression, disrupted sleep, compulsive disorders, addictions and depression. In order to address this imbalance, the proponents of this modality have isolated five “biologically based core needs”. When these core needs are not met in childhood, five adaptive coping styles are set in motion. Authors Laurene Heller PhD and Aline LaPierre PsyD outline these in their book Healing Developmental Trauma (2012).

Five Biologically-Based Core Needs

In order to cope with not receiving these core needs met, the authors have summarised five coping styles adapted to that imbalance, drawn from their clinical practice and hundreds of case studies. These once-adaptive survival styles, when continued beyond their usefulness, create a “distress cycle.” The key value of NARM is to break or prevent such a cycle repeating by addressing the core needs and survival styles together through employing specific psychotherapeutic and somatic modalities.

Five Adaptive Survival Styles

The focus is less on why people are the way they are and more on how their survival style distorts their experience and their life in the present.

Childhood adversity and various forms of trauma can define our adulthood, which is why this modality is so useful but non-invasive. After all, as the authors mentions: “When people experience trauma, they feel bad; children, in particular think they are bad when they feel bad.” Healing the original emotion that gives rise to trauma and stress in a way that by-passes direct confrontation offers a gentle but extremely powerful road to resolution and “…a clear focus for therapy and self-development.” Such an approach is needed now more than ever. Dr. Heller states: “As adults, the more the five adaptive survival styles dominate our lives, the more disconnected we are from our bodies, the more distorted our sense of becomes, and the less we are able to regulate ourselves. Though we may feel constrained by a survival style and the physiological patterns that are part of it, we are often afraid to move beyond it. When we identify with a survival style, we stay within the confines of learned and subsequently self-imposed limitations, foreclosing our capacity for connection and aliveness.” [1]

If you recognise your own coping style then you might want to buy their book and sit and work your way through their myriad suggestions. Or indeed, find a qualified and registered therapist should you feel you need that support. This is without doubt the future of modern psychotherapy and a welcome advance away from the exclusive domain of psychoanalysis, drug-corrupted psychiatry and some forms of psychology which often succeed in making matters worse. We are dealing with adaptive systems which can only adapt to the signals they receive. If our perceptions are distorted by traumatic memories and stress, to whatever degree, then the information relayed to our senses and the unconscious will be impaired, leading to major and minor breakdowns in those systems and life in general. Or, as the authors explain:

“It now appears that it is a misguided assumption to think that if we know what has gone wrong in a person’s life, we will also know how to help that person resolve their difficulties. For example, we now know that when we focus on dysfunction, we risk reinforcing that dysfunction: if we focus on deficiency and pain, we are likely to get better at feeling deficiency and pain. Analyzing problems and focusing primarily on what has gone wrong in a person’s life does not necessarily support self-regulation, and in some cases, increases dysregulation.” [2]

This puts into perspective those who attempt to have years of psychotherapy. This modality is only useful for the short-term and if it continues for many years then it’s safe to say that there is either dependency from the client or a misguided or financial incentive from the therapist. Talking it through has value but only as part of a much more holistic management of healing. Which is why cultivating a personal narrative to foster non-identification and the release of negative memories is vital. If not, the re-visiting of chronic trauma is keeping it alive. As with any negative force that has been frozen and accrued power it cannot be confronted head on. More gentle, subtler tactics are required, yet no less impactful.  When we in a state of habitual disregulation and psychic chaos we often divert huge amounts of our energy to appearing normal and fitting in with Official Culture. Without any outlet to heal pain; lacking support due to rationalising the reasons why we feel the way we do, patterns of addiction emerge to fill the void. We attempt to find that self-regulation by self-medicating by almost any means and at any cost. And if addictive behaviour is not the primary source to self-calming then the full force of psychic disintegration looms larger the more the source of the pain is displaced or avoided.

The NARM Healing Cycle

“As the NARM process unfolds, a healing cycle is set in motion in which nervous system regulation increases and distorted identifications and beliefs diminish and eventually resolve. In a positive healing cycle, the increasing nervous system regulation helps dissolve painful identifications, and as painful identifications and judgments dissolve, increasing capacity for self-regulation becomes possible.” — Dr. Laurene Heller PhD and Aline LaPierre PsyD, Healing Developmental Trauma – How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image and the capacity for Relationship (2012)

NARM is a great advance for psychotherapy in several ways. What is most distinctive about this modality is the holistic nature of its application. Whereas most healing traditions are linear with a top down, bottom up or circularity of progress, working from body to brain or from brain to body. This approach neglects self-perpetuating informational loops and allows the toxic links to continue (sometimes even becoming stronger through re-traumatization) which allows the distress cycle to remain unbroken. NARM, however, works with information flow in both directions therefore integrating top-down and bottom-up approaches. The result is a disruption of “self-perpetuating closed loops of distress” and a shift to a healing cycle. What’s more, the biological processes and the living nervous system of the body is the core focus of this form of psychotherapy. It is the stage by which are adaptive unconscious seeks to express itself and to increase chaos through faulty perceptions or to decrease it in favour of releasing those habitual patterns and thus move towards psychic healing and order.

“NARM views the mindful bottom-up experience of the body as the foundation of the healing process. The body is our connection to reality, the platform from which NARM works. By paying attention to the body, we are more easily able to recognize the truths and fictions of our personal narrative. As shock states held in the nervous system are discharged, we come into more contact with our body. A positive cycle is established in which the more self-regulated we become, the more we are in touch with our body, and the more in touch with our body we are, the greater our capacity for self-regulation. At the same time that NARM is grounded, bottom-up, in somatic mindfulness, it uses the mindful awareness of survival styles to bring a process of top-down inquiry to our sense of self which includes our fixed beliefs (identifications and counter-identifications), our self-hatred, self-rejection, and judgments. NARM also uses inquiry to help dissolve the fixed, narrow ideas about others and the world that limit our life. Since many of our identifications develop in the first five years of life, distortions in identity keep us seeing ourselves and the world from a child’s perspective.” [3]

The mind is the body and the body is undoubtedly representative of the mind. The kind of upbringing we have had often leaves suppressed and denied emotions which are effectively held in suspended animation in the unconscious and in the very cells of our bodies. Which is why it is imperative to heal emotions and free up those “blockages” not just via forms of psychotherapy, counselling and cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), but through tried and tested bodywork that specifically addresses such healing in ways that are, at times, miraculous.

Recommended programs

There have been enormous strides forward in understanding how the mind and body interacts and adapts in the face of trauma and from the effects of childhood adversity. I recommended the following modalities if you require a bit of emotional spring-cleaning and honours the body-mind as an holistic “unit.” Needless to say, these are only my personal recommendations, do some research and evaluation and see what resonates with you. If none of these are unaffordable, then seek group initiatives and consultations which are free – they’re out there. There is a lot you can do on your own to take charge and sow the seeds. Parallel to this you might want to find interested parties interested in doing the same thing and pool the cost. However, if a therapist is charging an exorbitant fee it’s frankly immoral, so move on.

Art therapy

This is one of the most effective and underused modes of therapy I know. Having used art therapy to heal and withstand Official Culture and to contribute to the healing of my own self, I consider it a simple, accessible and powerful way to address our emotional scars and self-conceptualisations.

As mentioned before, the problem with forms of psychotherapy is that we can talk about our issues but inadvertently end up fixating on the produced catharsis and neglecting the body’s role, which means it replays and re-traumatizes. That can be very subtle. At worst, we can also be prey to therapists who value a regular customer income more than alleviating and setting free the person so that they don’t return. That is surely, the object of the exercise: to help the client to free themselves. Success is when a client never returns.

With art therapy individually or ideally in a group setting, using paint, clay, craft materials, photography, writing or sculpture you design your own output valve so that repressed/suppressed emotion is allowed to safely released.

© M.K. Styllinski

The act of creation is as old as humanity. Embroidering, metalwork, jewelry, rustic furniture, arts & crafts, objets d’art, pottery simultaenously allowed artistic expression and a functional beauty. In days before industrialisation, art and community were as one. Objects produced were utilitarian, practical and often glowing with beauty. In fact, artistic expression is the primary channel through which shadows and “dark spirits” can be exorcised and understood.

From a Jungian perspective, unconscious complexes made up of hurt, pain and the denied and fragmented parts of ourselves can finally be released and expressed into the material world. The process is what is important however, not a finished product as espoused by our capitalist culture. You let all of that external appraisal and judgement go. When you permit this pain to be expressed in your own way it becomes something tangible that you can see and touch thereby easier to understand and let go. The healer is both yourself and the material in front of you. You are the mediator and the master. The immediate or gradual relief that is felt can be life-changing from such a simple process of creation.

From a British perspective art therapy is more advanced in the United States than in the U.K. which is still very much influenced by psychoanalysis and though beneficial, it is severely limited in scope and vision. Various diverse and creative forms of art therapy exist in the USA however. (I’ll be exploring art therapy more in No. 27 Be Curious and Encourage Your Creativity).

For more insights into art as therapy I’d recommend these books: Art as Medicine: Creating a Therapy of the Imagination (1993) and Art Heals: How Creativity Cures the Soul (2004) both by Shaun McNiff.  See also: The British Association of Art Therapists | American Art Therapy Association

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – Is a way of exploring how we think about ourselves, the world and other people. It helps us understand that what we do affects our thoughts and feelings. “CBT can help you to change how you think (‘Cognitive’) and what you do (‘Behaviour’). These changes can help you to feel better. Unlike some of the other talking treatments, it focuses on the ‘here and now’ problems and difficulties. Instead of focusing on the causes of your distress or symptoms in the past, it looks for ways to improve your state of mind now.” CBT has proven to be effective for a range of problems. However, if you believe you are suffering from trauma, bodywork may also be needed. Nonetheless, this is one of the most effective treatments available for healing negative thought patterns.

See more: What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? – Psychology Today  |  www.rcpsych.ac.uk/  |  www.mind.org.uk/

Coherence Therapy – Is a relatively new modality that claims to treat a very diverse range of mental health issues. The end goal is “…the complete coherence of the unconscious knowings, meanings and feelings that underlie and maintain the great majority of symptoms and problems presented by therapy clients.” The author’s state further: “…Coherence Therapy’s non-pathologizing model and methods comes from the recent, major discovery of memory reconsolidation by neuroscientists. Reconsolidation is the only known neural mechanism that allows long-ingrained, learned emotional reactions actually to be erased, which was not thought possible for nearly a century until findings published in 1997-2000 showed otherwise.”

See more: at coherencetherapy.org and Can You Rewire Your Brain to Change Bad Habits, Thoughts and Feelings? – Alternet.org

Somatic Experiencing® (SE) – “…a pioneering body-based approach to overcoming trauma, shock and other stress disorders. It is the life’s work of American psychotherapist Dr. Peter A. Levine, combining the fruits of his study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics alongside over 45 years of successful clinical application.” — UK | US   (Video on SE with Nina Goradia)

Thought Field Therapy® (TFT) – “…a treatment that when applied to a psychological problem an individual is focusing upon will modify discrete information patterns in the Thought Field, the fundamental cause of all negative emotions.” […]  “According to Dr. Callahan’s theory, whenever we think of something, we are tuning into a specific “Thought Field” in much the same way as a TV must be tuned in to receive a specific channel.  Held within that energy field are the coded information patterns (essentially, a set of inbuilt programmes) used by the mind and body to generate the entire emotional experience associated with that thought.

This is why the experience (of fear, for example) is identical in all humans – the same “instructions” are followed each time. Dr. Callahan has named these information patterns “perturbations,” from a dictionary definition of the word – “a cause of mental disquietude.”

By tapping on the correct meridian points in a specific sequence these perturbations, which are isolatable and are the “root cause” of all negative emotions,  can be deactivated, thereby effectively “switching off” the emotional experience. The individual can now think about what troubled them as often as they like as the memory of it remains unaffected, but the associated negative emotion, (anxiety, anger, guilt, etc.), will no longer be present.

See more at: www.thoughtfield.co.uk/  |  UK I US 

Neurofeedback / NeurOptimal®– Also called EEG biofeedback, this is a technique that took off in 2007 but its developing roots lie in the innovations in neuroscience of the 1950s and beyond. It has particular success in changing “hard-wired” networks of neurons and strengthening existing connections. It works well with other complimentary modalities in tackling trauma and long-term patterns of anxiety. “Neurofeedback is a research-supported treatment to sharpen attention, relieve anxiety, enhance mood, and improve learning and behavior—without medication. … Small changes that are repeatedly reinforced lead to changes in how our brains work. EEG biofeedback involves monitoring and analyzing brain signals picked up by surface electrodes placed on the scalp. Brainwaves are generated by individual cells in your brain called neurons that communicate by electrical changes. We can visualize these electrical changes in the form of brainwaves, as recorded on an electroencephalogram (EEG). The EEG itself is used to guide the feedback you receive.” — www.traumacenter.org/

See a variant on neurofeedback at: www.neuroptimal.com

Although their may be elements of the placebo effect at work, overall, the studies and testimonials from participants suggest an extremely valuable approach, with many users claiming dramatic transformations. However, don’t pay over the odds and do some background checks on exactly what certain companies are offering.

NeuroAffective Relational Model ™ (NARM) – a new psychotherapuetic model with a somatic foundation designed to gently get to the root causes in the present without triggering memories of the past which would otherwise re-traumatize or re-stress individuals. (See above)

Yoga, meditation and breathing – There are many types of yoga, so I’ve included a link to a comprehensive list here. Make sure you choose the right one for you. In combination with meditation and breathing, Yoga may be extremely beneficial in regulating the “muscle of the soul”.  Including these three in your daily routine has been scientifically proven to improve your mental, emotional and physical health – thus spiritually. Not only do they positively transform your brain by rebuilding grey matter, they can reverse chronic pain, reduce symptoms of stress and promote relaxation, to name but a few benefits.

I’ll be going into greater detail on meditation first as part of the 31 suggestions and with a further exploration on Yoga /breathing techniques in a future post in this series.

Other tools which can help are hypnosis, creative visualisation, writing and art therapy. In the hands of good therapists each can be extremely useful. The use of imagination (as opposed to escapist fantasy) is a powerful means to tap into archetypal and mythical narratives which can be tailored to your speicific situation. Through the use of personal story-telling and imagery you can facilitate healing and goal-setting which do work. Similarly, hypnosis can assist in reducing and getting rid of phobias and habits, whereas expressing yourself through writing and art (painting, sculpture etc.) is cathartic and healing, allowing you to access the unconscious elements impeding growth and release this energy on paper or canvas. You may be very surprised at how eloquent such an expression can be and the insights you gain from letting your shadows flow through your hands. (Since I worked in the arts for over 12 years I can attest to the fact that my personal forays into artisitc expression became my lifeline. It was only when making a living from art that it became something quite different and much less healthy).

Bridging the gap

Although modern medicine has give us great benefits it is well overdue for a radical overhaul. In the same way we have become dependent on the State to solve our every need we also place far too much credence to medical orthodoxy which is often scientifically and financially corrupt. Transfer this appreciation to your own mind-body evaluation and we might conclude that this is disequilibrium calling out to you for adjustment. It’s about gaining balance when you are clearly out of balance – a condition that has accumulated over time. All you are seeking to do is recognise that if you have neuroses and/or body imbalances trauma or other symptoms rooted in the past and disrupting your place in the present; that we can see these negative manifestations as opportunities to grow and become much more than you are.

If we persist in covering them up or denying that anything needs to be addressed then they will likely become stronger and more intractable until you reach a point where you’ll be forced to address them through a disintegration that is as dramatic as it is unnecessarily painful. Similarly, you might coast through life by creating a bubble of comfort, carefully managed and maintained. That’s fine. Many of us strive for that at different periods of our lives. But you will be adapting to stagnation not growth. Again, be clear about what you want and to what degree you seek transformation. There are many levels up the mountain and many mountains on the horizon. Our own only limitation is fear. And we’ll come to that precious resource soon enough.

At the same time we have taken our current social conditioning and its interpretation of old ideas as normal, when it is nothing of the kind. Education, politics, parenting, agriculture, economics and the creative drives of our culture have all tipped toward pathological interpretations. Indeed, when we lose our innate ability to recognise and apply the natural language of a healthy personality and group that is attuned and regulated to psychospiritual realities of myth, nature’s cycles, personal ritual and the importance of community dynamics then a gradual acceptance of the imposed psychopathy from on high is inevitable. In this sense, we are all struggling with mental illness that is a natural reaction to a culture subverted by psychopathic sociocultural constructs. We are mentally ill but don’t know it. We are trying to adapt to societal realities rather than allowing ourselves to adapt to instructions from our conscience or soul. It’s like trying to bailout a boat that has a large hole in the side – the more water you bail out the more rushes in. In the end, you cannot keep up and start to mend the hole or jump ship altogether so that you can build a new boat which will take you to another land. Our task is to quietly and competently heal ourselves so that we eventually transcend the major obstruction – whatever it maybe – and all the other ancillary negatives that it tends to produce.

Our lives are part of a larger macrosocial reality that imposes large-scale influence onto small-scale activity. Our personal lives are patterned into the former like an intricate mosaic incorporates different colours of thread amongst the overall design.  The pressures and pain that we have all endured and continue to experience are the underlying sub-structure of adapatation to a world that is already subsumed by hierarchical pathology symptomatic of long-term psychological corruption. It is the dominance of the predator in humanity that overshadows and creates its prey; the new generations of humanity conditioned to be docile, pitiful, victimized and powerless; constantly discouraged and brainwashed into believing that reality is only that which can be seen or touched; that we have no ability to take responsibility for carving out our own destiny in concert with others who have awakened to the same.

We can all strive to be more than our social, cultural and genetic circumstances. There are a gazillion choices and decisions available regarding how you want to play this life you’ve given yourself. And it has nothing whatsoever to do with what seemingly shitty hand we were dealt at birth or how much suffering has been inflicted on us. Yes, some people have experienced suffering that is unimaginable whilst others seem to float on a cotton cloud of perception scarcely stepping outside their own goldfish bowl of immediate desires. They seem to do all right precisely because they are happy to part of the daily crunch and grind of the technosphere and its culture. They are not a threat to its infrastructure. But if you genuinely want to grow your life, starting by healing yourself, then you will, by default, oppose everything in the external world that is deceitful, dark, manipulative and oppressive; precisely those qualities which seeded their toxic effects within you. Oppose negative outcomes in yourself then you become naturally wired to resist such impositions in the world at large; you are attuned to something more than your survival style.

Since you have gone through the underworld and retrieved the seed of your soul then you can expect to be a different person, intent on receiving that same interaction with others – to support and guide those moving toward similar realisations. When you make the choice to heal yourself in ways which are truthful then you naturally contribute to the pool of intention and effort that is occurring in many other lives. Don’t imagine this is all about you. It’s about everyone. And a psychospiritual victory that places conscience and higher order emotions at the top of the creative impulse changes reality.

Some might say why bother? Why heal yourself when the world is unspeakably bleak; when you’re heart-broken or you cannot let go of grief or the present is unbearable as the horrors of the past? Again, this isn’t all about you. You do it precisely because the lowest part of you will fight tooth and nail to keep you in stagnating fear which not only traps you in a pit but ultimately traps others. This is the responsibility you have. Get angry at victimhood and consciously deny it. There is nothing wrong with you. It’s simply learning to negotiate with life as it is and adapting to the consequences as a result of conscious choices. The alternative is that your suffering is used to fuel the worst pathology of Official Culture rather than bootstrapping your own escape. Transcend your own suffering and you reduce the suffering of others. That’s a double pay off.

To reiterate the point: there is nothing wrong with you – not in the sense that the medical establishment would have you believe. It’s just imbalance, asking – pleading – to be addressed. Yes, you are capable of it, You are not a slave to outside ideas or people’s opinions unless you willingly choose it right up to the point you leave this microsecond of a life. Underneath all those self-pitying, whining, whingeing primitive rationalisations you are as creatively powerful as the sun’s core. You are SO much more than what your nerve endings or sensitive emotions tell you.

Trauma, to whatever degree, also plays a part as to how fragile or resilient children turn out to be. The extended family beyond the parameters of immediate relations resides in a community of those invested in the same values, a large part of which depends on the nature of the environment. Whether it is in the heart of the city; the suburbs; in a rural village; a town or a slum – the presence and strength of community cooperation and thus spiritual (mental, emotional, physical) support will either nourish new generations or if absent, actively alienate them to their own self-awareness and capacity to meet the world and its challenges. Children become by-products of these constants perpetuating the same in the society and culture of which they are a part.

Perhaps the huge elephant in the room is our disconnection to nature which is a consequence of the growth of the State and its corporatism; of the economic model of debt slavery and banking power which in reality, prevents any redress of the above mentioned constants, the increasing dysfunction of which only serves this monolithic machine. Finally, that means the very nations of the planet become de-individualised components in a mythic globalised game of monopoly where GDP and AI-based financial speculation determines the daily lives of its inhabitants.

It’s also worth a reminder that this is about genuine healing in terms of self-growth and potential transformation. It is not about self-indulgence or feeding into a culture of naval-gazing and infantile victimhood. The process of healing must be seen through to the end and that means no more whining about how cruel and hopeless the world is in order to justify in-action. We can find one-hundred and one reasons not to take responsibility for ourselves and blame others for our woes (real or imagined) but that doesn’t do anything but keep us in a state of devolution. There is no room for complacency when tackling serious disease or mental illness, nor are there any guarantees. What we do have, are many more possible solutions which suggest we do not have to suffer needlessly.

When science and ancient wisdom begin to integrate then we might see some real progress. When we make a sincere decision to heal then there will be a response.

So heal the past, heal yourself and become the hero you always were.


Recommended books

When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Maté (2011)
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté (2018)
The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Volk (2009)
In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness, by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D. (2012)
Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology and How You Can Heal By Donna Jackson Nakazawa (2015)
Neurofeedback in the Treatment of Developmental Trauma: Calming the Fear-Driven Brain by Sebern Fisher (2014)
Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship
by Laurence Heller Phd and Aline Psyd Lapierre (2012)
Personality-Shaping Through Positive Disintegration By Kazimierz Dabrowski (1967) (Reprint 2015)
by Kazimierz Dabrowski
Strangers to Ourselves – Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious By Timothy D. Wilson (2011)
Unlocking the Emotional Brain: Eliminating Symptoms at Their Roots Using Memory Reconsolidation by Bruce Ecker, Robin Ticic, Laurel Hulle (2012)
The Tapping Solution Nick Ortner (2013)
The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication and Self-Regulation By Stephen Porges PhD (2013)
You Are The Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter By Dr. Joe Dispenza (2014)


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[1] p.4; Healing Developmental Trauma By L. Heller; LaPierre.
[2] Ibid. p.2
[3] Ibid. p.18


  1. Hello.
    Before hand I feel if there is bad grammar or any error, this is not my native language.
    Well, I want to say that I identify with this post, I have lived many difficult moments in my childhood and only a few months ago I had the option to begin to overcome all this.
    I’ve been lucky enough to find a strange book called “From Suffering to Consciousness” that exposes a tool that has helped me question and overcome much of what I thought was my life.
    The tool is called “Exploring Meanings” and consists of answering nine questions about a particular thought or experience. The nine questions are:

    1.-What does that thought or experience mean to you? (What do you think?)
    2.-How do you react when you give it that meaning? (What do you feel? What do you do?)

    3.- What would happen if you didn’t give it that meaning and gave it a more conscious one? (What would you think? What would you feel? What would you do?)

    4.- Do you want to look for other more conscious meanings?

    5.- What other more conscious meaning(s) could you give it?

    6.- How do you react when you give this new meaning?

    7.- How would your life be from now on giving it this new meaning? Look for three examples.

    8.- Remember your reactions when you gave the first meaning and observe the new ones when you give the new meaning. Who gives the meanings?

    9.- Who has the power to do it?

    With time, all suffering diminishes and disappears, only serenity and self-knowledge remain.


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